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Lately, no matter who I am talking to, the focus of the conversation is about relationships. I took the inspiration and bring you damned if you do, damned if you don’t edition. Here in It Is What It Is, the floor is open for views from everyone. So, I am speaking from my point of view.

Men & Women

Men and women, we are some crazy individuals. We go through so much as a person and even more when we are in a relationship. We have to learn to love self before we can love anyone. Men are raised to be providers and women are raised to nurture. They say women mature faster than men; I don’t agree completely. Sometimes life experiences can make you grow up very quickly. When that happens, we are groomed into certain feelings and demeanors. What happens when differences come together? I say compromises and sacrifices. I have come to realize that women will compromise and sacrifice more in a relationship than men. Women will love you till she has exhausted herself. Men will love you but their pride will keep them from fighting for love. Men will let a woman walk away knowing he really don’t want to lose her. I woman will endure so much before she say enough is enough. A woman will catch a man cheating and forgive me plus try to work it out. A man will catch a woman cheating, it is a wrap and it’s over. In relationships, you have a few men that have their priorities together and the women don’t. Women are ready to commitment because we were prepared to be in most cases. Even though men were taught to be the provider…now and days most are not.

The bottom line for me… is women are strong, now and days too strong. We have become so independent that will have allowed men to forget their roles in our life. Even though we can do it for our self, we still need to allow them to be men and provide for home. Women, we say we don’t need no a man but we all want companionship. Men sometimes you have to drop your pride and just love the women you love. Love is worth fighting for. So, drop the high horse. Women we may can do it all but it’s nothing wrong with a little help. So, drop the high horse. Dealing with men and women, we are damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

I ask you….....

IT IS WHAT IT IS with MEN & WOMEN?

The forum for this blog is open chat and real talk. I asked for everyone to respect each other point of views, if I feel your comment is disrespectful to someone else I will delete your comment……but I am hoping we can enjoy ourselves in this adult forum conversation. We can get along but still disagree with each other in a RESPECTFUL manner. So let’s chat it up, keep it real and have some fun.....LOL!

From my own experiences, I've decided that the most important thing in any relationship is honesty. I don't mean just telling the truth, but I mean to be your most honest, your most real self right from that 1st meeting with anyone. If both parties would do this, it would save a lot of heartache down the road.

Besides, how will you ever draw to yourself the right person if you are being something other than your truest self??

Good topic, Tarringo.

In releationship, I think if we treat the other (no matter what thier gender) in the relationship with the same respect, openess and honesty and trust that we would want to have for ourself we'd find ourselves happier on the whole. But, truly getting back the core essense of relationship... In my opinion one cannot have a healthy relationship with another until they have a healthy relationship with theirself. Once we establish balance within our own being then, we draw to us others who are themselves balanced and base the relationship on mutual respect for one anothers being. I hope my words make sense, it's hard to describe what can often be known as a "knowing" inside.

From my own experiences, I've decided that the most important thing in any relationship is honesty. I don't mean just telling the truth, but I mean to be your most honest, your most real self right from that 1st meeting with anyone. If both parties would do this, it would save a lot of heartache down the road.

Besides, how will you ever draw to yourself the right person if you are being something other than your truest self??

Good topic, Tarringo.

I agree Karen...I think we have to be able to be ourselves right away when meeting someone, therefore laying down the foundation of honesty....Its funny how people of both genders feel they have to conform to something they are not just to even grab that other person's attention..I see it daily and I've found myself doing so also.

relationships, a topic that we will never have only one right answer. but i do agree with it said previously that to be oneself is primordial for a relation to work . one can try to improve aspect of themselves that they are not conform with but not to do it with the hope to be liked by your partner. this has to be sincere if you think it can help the couple to grow. love should not be a worktask. i think as well it is important to know that as human being we are in constant evolution.so what we live and are exposed to can bring us to react in ways that we do not expect so a dose of comprehension toward each other is a quality that we can bring in, when i say love is not a work task it is not about not being attentionate toward your mate, i just want to say that every action should come right from the heart, or else we can question ourself about the love we profess. it important to recognize that as the relation progress other aspect of your mate will show up, which i consider normal and not to consider that as concealement, it takes time to really know someone. first you will know what everyone knows and see and then down the line you will come to know your mate more deeply..

In releationship, I think if we treat the other (no matter what thier gender) in the relationship with the same respect, openess and honesty and trust that we would want to have for ourself we'd find ourselves happier on the whole. But, truly getting back the core essense of relationship... In my opinion one cannot have a healthy relationship with another until they have a healthy relationship with theirself. Once we establish balance within our own being then, we draw to us others who are themselves balanced and base the relationship on mutual respect for one anothers being. I hope my words make sense, it's hard to describe what can often be known as a "knowing" inside.

Couldn't have said it any better Kristine..and you know that quote of mine "noone is going to love you until you learn how to love yourself"...I think personal insecrities lead relationships on that path of not working out

I so agree you have to love yourself, and have a healthy relationship with yourself before you can venture out into a relationship. At best relationships can be tricky mindfields. You have to be open and have good communication to make it work. Somedays it easier than others, but you have to have commitment to try to make it work at the first bump so many bail out without giving it a chance.I've been married 38 years now and there are still times when it's work

Men and women really are different and it is actually great to see them as a bond when they form a relationship. Imagine having conflicting personalities being one and I think that is the essence of having a relationship.

You do not have to always go with that one who has the same interest as you, or that will make it boring. You would want someone who sees life differently so that you could add dimension to how you go about.

A woman in love gives all of her heart.
A woman to me has strength beyond the braking parts.
She barely falls.
She just keeps giving it her all.
She is beautiful inside and out.
When she is in love she carries very little doubt.
To love a woman you should cherish the beauty inside her.
To love a woman you have to try to see her heart from the inside.
She is the wings of life.
She will believe many things you say so be honest.
don’t brake her heart with your foolish games cause she knows you better than you.
Don’t make her blue .
For her anger will come alive.
She will give you one hell of a fight.
When your going to love her show her your heart is true.
Show her she is not a fool.
Be man she fell in love with.
You know when you really tried.
Don’t let your love die.
A woman in love will fight to make things right.
Until all the love dies.
So be careful when you talk to in her eyes.
If your honest she will fall for you deeply.
If your not you will meet her life’s wrath.
You will receive the blunt of it all and it will be your ass.
Love makes a woman.
Sweet kiss make her melt.
She will dance and sway close to your belt.
She will fall for you.
So don’t come loving up just when you want some.
Be a man that stands true.
Love her all the time.
Sweet cuddles will do by her right.
And if you would just daily hold her tight.
Let her know of your love inside.
If she is a good woman her love will never die.
Be a good man and try.
We all know we all have faults.
We will all fail each other.
But its them loving moments like no others that keeps love a live.

A good man is a father, a lover ,and a good buddy.
He loves his family with all he has.
He is strong, he keeps his family and friends with a close bond.
A good man listens with his heart.
Nothing barely brakes it apart.
He always has the most important to him on his mind.
So ladies try to be his shinning light.
He will treat you right.
He loves his family and friends.
This is bond that does not bend.
He is a great man.
Offer a helping taking care hand.
don’t let him be the only money man.
A loving kind man needs affection .
Fire up the passion with him.
And love him the way he needs done.
You wont be sorry Hun.
A good man knows his strengths.
A good man is a great man to all the community .
He is a mighty good man.
He can make a difference in your world.
He can be your dream.
If he is a real good man.
He will know his family comes first over a job.
And a real man knows what he values before its gone.
He knows where his duties belong.
But his heart will always buddy a good round.
Let him be has free as you would like to be.
Give him space has you enjoy yours.
Always value and adore a good man know his worth.
And he will knows yours.
Treat him fairly and love will be yours.